Monday, January 15, 2018

The Army Day

Today is Army Day, a day when we celebrate the glory of the stars on a shoulder and a life that's unlike others. An experience that you can only know it once because as you grow older, the old times seems bygone. As an army wife I am proud of the man I am married to. The various jobs that he juggles as the man of the house as well. Obviously it makes our life more interesting when we get to interact with people of the same profession and hopefully will only get to get better.

The sacrifices that you have to make when your husband has to leave you alone because the matters of our country are more important and slowly you get used to it. But its always with a smile and anyway it wouldn't matter if you frown at times because you are allowed to feel things. After all its not a crime to behave like a human, at times cry and at times throw a fit. It always makes us better as a couple in the longer run. So, lets celebrate this day, this unique label of an army wife, be proud of yourself as a woman and salute to all the soldiers away from their families. Some at borders and some in heaven...You are truly missed!

Tuesday, June 13, 2017

Singapore Dairies- Part 2

If you haven't walked in Singapore, and didn't get on the MMT and LMT then you haven't really seen the place. There is something amazing about being a part of the locals and how you mix in a culture thats so different from you.

Tuesday, June 6, 2017

Singapore Dairies

When you think about the horrid summers in India, all you wish that you lived on the top of a mountain but since its not always an option, this year we decided on Singapore. My son's first trip abroad and we were pretty excited about visiting another asian country for the first time. After Europe, I really didn't have much hopes on it but wow, how this country has surprised me.

We planned to stay at Punggol which is actually a lovely neighbourhood but a little away from all the tourist places. However, determined to make our way to all that we planned when we hardly had a wink, we went for Gardens By The Bay, popular for its super trees, Indoor waterfalls and their preservation of nature. The fully air-conditioning hits you with a blast as you enter and the shower of the gigantic waterfall greeted us with cool sprinkle of water.  Its almost as if you have reached some sort of heaven on earth. You can walk up or simply take an elevator up and as you go, you can comfortably relax at some spot of your choice and just watch the waterfall. Its one of a kind that makes your visit to Singapore a visit worth while.

After spending a really long time inside, we went for the Flower dome, where you can see how different varieties of flowers have been maintained under controlled temperature. They even had a tulip garden display which was just a delight to the eyes. A cozy cafe where they serve nice cappuccino, cold beer and some absolutely mouth watering snacks, we lingered despite wanting to stay put. Secretly i had set up a camp amongst the flowers and forget the life i live.

The SuperTrees Grove was another highlight of the place. You can see it standing tall, making its presence felt despite looking at the other structures. It makes you want to stare at them all day long. At around 7:15, they had the musical show started which was the STAR WAR theme. After a long day, I napped lying under them, listening to the very soothing with the volume just right that put me to sleep.

Its even more stunning when you stand in front of it

Many such art pieces were displayed along the way. This is one of them

Original carving from wood. What do you see? I see evolution.

Horticulture Heaven

Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Home Decor - part 1

When you move from one place to another, you kind of become an expert is making a very shabby quarters, all yours! A newly married will slowly buy things for her home while for me who have been a few years in the army, I tend to pick up thing from everywhere. Mostly from my travels and hometown. Here are a few tips that would help you set up a house and make it your home.

Zen Corner:

Make sure you have a 'ZEN' place designated in your living room or wherever you tend to sit out a lot. For me, its my living space where I sit and do my daily tasks, even writing. It simply means that you have a corner dedicated to spirituality and when you decorate that corner, you would feel an inner peace. I love gold and wood tones in my home so you would see that here. I added a buddha and a few things my mom gave me for good luck in the form of Feng Shui. I am hoping to add a money plant very soon.


Your curtains don't have to be the boring solid colours. Choose something that would let the air and light in. Limit the use of tube lights in the mornings and let bask in the nature. I love mints and teal and these are pretty transparent and this is just one side i have added to make it look special. Also a decorative item, such as the cage and tea lights make it look very warm.

Take a drink:

A corner where you can have a drink and display your precious crystals are is why you should own a bar cabinet. You get many options online these days or the best option that I tried was to get a design and get it made from a carpenter.

My Zen space

A warm corner 

My bar cabinet and handmade floor lamp

I'll add a few more pictures later. Hope you got a few tips on how to make your home ever more beautiful!

To Be Continued...

Sunday, January 31, 2016

Why Taking My Toddler To the Mall was the biggest mistake of my life?

Excuse the long title but I couldn’t shorten it anyway. The impact of a bad day is getting to me and when all I could think about during the sale season was to shop in peace, I forgot that I had my son along. Kids these days, I am going to rant now, are not the usual ones. They want to be entertained, to be cuddled and to buy as much as you want. My son has seen us shopping and he thinks he can pick up three to four toys together, like I buy dresses in a mall. Not only does this turn into an ugly cry-affair where I try to convice him that this is not a great choice for him or for his age, he just throws a tantrum. There are tears, people stare like I am really bad mother, He doesn’t let go of that big box of hot wheels and want more like a greedy tiny person. Inside I am in tears, I am wailing and believe me, I just want to go home without taking a thing home. But I really live far from the city and I gotta to buckle up and be brave.

I thought the icecream would quiten him but he giving those sad teary looks because I just don’t buy him anything. He is unhappy but takes the icecream, sulky but eats it all while I go to one shop and decide to pick up whatever I like first and just get the hell out of there. He keeps wailing in between- “I want a car, Hot Wheels big Box’ which means I need to shell out more money this month and since I already spent more than I should have for the month, I just don’t give in. I tell him that he needs to buy a smaller one or else no more toys.

Lucky for me the play park at the Mall is huge and has sand and jungle gym with kids like him are tearing in, oh I mean Playing. Parents are sitting and watching them in distance. They all looked dissastisfied with their shopping plan gone haywired like mine. But my son was happy then, not once did he ask for the toy. The moment it was time to go home, he remembered the toy he had to buy. He cries again and people look. I stare them back. I am getting hyperventialed because I just want to go home now. I somehow put him in the car and decide silently that shopping with him, never ever in life!

What I feel is that kids really do not need a Mall to be happy. The outing in the Mall is just a very wrong concept. Somewhere I read why they behaved in this way because they are put in an unnatural environment, not ready to sit and just wait. Patience is the thing for adults and not for toddlers.  A lesson well learnt but a painful day that I wont be able to forget for sometime.

This blog post is inspired by the blogging marathon hosted on IndiBlogger for the launch of the #Fantastico Zica from Tata Motors. You can apply for a test drive of the hatchback Zica today.

5 Books Every Toddler should Be Read to

I have always been in search for some books for my son and after trying several books, I have found these to be the best.  Although I could explore more since he almost four but I am pretty comfortable having these on his shelf right now. Some books come with CDs and you can play it with the pretty background music and dialogues that would be great once in a while. And if music is for the ears then words and pictures are for the eyes. 
Now if you want your toddler to develop the habit of holding a book to read and build a few new words every now and then then be sure to pick up these books with interesting theme and story line.

Shark In The Park by NICK SHARRATT: Children love aqcuatic fishes and the scarier they are, the more interesting they become. This is one such book where you will find a little boy who has just got a telescope for a present, exploring the park for a shark. So many times he think he found it but no such luck. The suspence in the end is good and gets a laugh out of my son every time. Add it to your collection for sure!

Peppa Pig: The series of Peppa Pig and the family are always on an adventure. They have something of the other going on in the family. They play in the snow or meet the Santa Claus, They have guests over and its so much fun to follow whats happening in their lives. I like all the books. Choose the themes that your child would be most interested in.

Green Eggs And Ham by Dr Seuss : Now this one I first heart it on Youtube and found it so refreshingly different.  Words like ‘Could Not, ‘Would not’, “Would you”, “Could you” and several other new words that you could teach your kids in a fun way. The grumpy cat doesn’t want to taste the green eggs and ham and keeps refusing. Does he actually have a taste in the end? How to teach your kids to try different things in life would actually put a smile on your face.

The Hungry Catepillar by ERIC CARLE: The little catepillar id really hungry and trying to find something to eat. Does he find something at last? And what happened in the end? He does eat a bunch of things that you could explain to your child and its great to know what hunger is.

Where’s Spot by ERIC HILL:  Sallly, the dog trying to find Spot. Who is spot? Why is she trying to find Spot? And words like UNDER, IN, ON, INSIDE, UP, all are very good to add in the vocabulary. You also come to know of different animals and learn their names.

The best time to read to your child is when he really interested in the books. It would be great if he picks the one he is interested in. Let me know if your kid reads any other books and I hope to check then out since more books are always welcome.

This blog post is inspired by the blogging marathon hosted on IndiBlogger for the launch of the #Fantastico Zica from Tata Motors. You can apply for a test drive of the hatchback Zica today.

Marriage and why it doesn’t work out

Its really not something that you could put a tag on and say that this is suppoed to work. “You are married and now deal with it”. If only that was the truth. We live in a society where tolearnce and patience has gone under the bridges. We cannot just wait for things to get better, waiting for him to smile, waiting for him to say ‘I Love You’, waiting for him to turn over for sex, waiting for him to hug you just for the heck of it. The woman who used to do this could be dead now or really really old. In short, we respect our husbands but we want more too from a relationship and that can only happen if you communicate. And if communication works in a way that sounds like an accusation then turning to another guy could be the biggest mistake of your life. Because you have to think about the conseuqnces not through those rainbow glasses.

Why does a man think he forgets about the woman he loved once so much? There is no psychological conclusions to it. An unhappy man who is not doing great at his job could be the reason or a very successful man with no purpose could be another. A woman who has give up her body or herself to her career than taking care to woo her husband is another reason. Her disstisfaction becomes suffocating until the couple breathe their last breath. The impact of  a loveless marriage reflects on your kids as well. Then you think about what the society will think- which is really a sad senario because people are more curious than concerened.

Admit it,  you have thought about another man, another woman, despite being married and that doesn’t really mean you are doomed in a marriage. You just need a breather. And that’s why we come to the legal term called Seperation and Divorce. It’s not a shameful thing nor are you doing injustice to your family. Once in a while its alright to give up and move on and that is the first step. And doing it the clean way will help your kids to adjust to the new life that you will head on from now on wards. Of course I see men moving out but I feel a woman need to move out from the place that holds memories and have a smaller place where you needent spend hours cleaning up.

Its not something you can stop it, if there is more compromise than love then its time to let go because you have years to live and you deserve to be happy. Even if that means letting go of that one person who had been partner all those years. But was never present.

This blog post is inspired by the blogging marathon hosted on IndiBlogger for the launch of the #Fantastico Zica from Tata Motors. You can apply for a test drive of the hatchback Zica today.