Its really not something that you could put a tag on and say that this is suppoed to work. “You are married and now deal with it”. If only that was the truth. We live in a society where tolearnce and patience has gone under the bridges. We cannot just wait for things to get better, waiting for him to smile, waiting for him to say ‘I Love You’, waiting for him to turn over for sex, waiting for him to hug you just for the heck of it. The woman who used to do this could be dead now or really really old. In short, we respect our husbands but we want more too from a relationship and that can only happen if you communicate. And if communication works in a way that sounds like an accusation then turning to another guy could be the biggest mistake of your life. Because you have to think about the conseuqnces not through those rainbow glasses.
Why does a man think he forgets about the woman he loved once so much? There is no psychological conclusions to it. An unhappy man who is not doing great at his job could be the reason or a very successful man with no purpose could be another. A woman who has give up her body or herself to her career than taking care to woo her husband is another reason. Her disstisfaction becomes suffocating until the couple breathe their last breath. The impact of a loveless marriage reflects on your kids as well. Then you think about what the society will think- which is really a sad senario because people are more curious than concerened.
Admit it, you have thought about another man, another woman, despite being married and that doesn’t really mean you are doomed in a marriage. You just need a breather. And that’s why we come to the legal term called Seperation and Divorce. It’s not a shameful thing nor are you doing injustice to your family. Once in a while its alright to give up and move on and that is the first step. And doing it the clean way will help your kids to adjust to the new life that you will head on from now on wards. Of course I see men moving out but I feel a woman need to move out from the place that holds memories and have a smaller place where you needent spend hours cleaning up.
Its not something you can stop it, if there is more compromise than love then its time to let go because you have years to live and you deserve to be happy. Even if that means letting go of that one person who had been partner all those years. But was never present.
This blog post is inspired by the blogging marathon hosted on IndiBlogger for the launch of the #Fantastico Zica from Tata Motors. You can apply for a test drive of the hatchback Zica today.